⚠️ WARNING (MEN ONLY):
This one is personal and it’s straight talk.
If you’re not a guy, please don’t read further.
And if you’re gonna mock men trying to fix their lives… rather exit now. Respect. 🤝

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THE “BETTER MAN” CHALLENGE #1

30 Days. No Excuses. Reset Mode.

Ok boys… I’m doing something a bit hectic.

Not for attention.
Not for likes.
Because I need it.

I need a reset.
I need to raise my game… properly.

Not just gym stuff. I mean life.

My walk with Christ.
My focus.
My energy.
My mind.
My discipline.
My coaching.
And yes… my body too.

I’m grateful for what I’ve got, but I’m not here to coast.
I can feel it in my spirit… I’m meant to be sharper than this.

So for February I’m running a 30-day challenge, and I’m inviting you to shadow me.
Not to become perfect… but to become better.

And if you’re a guy who’s been feeling foggy, flat, distracted, anxious, low drive… always “starting again Monday”… then bru, this is for you.

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WHAT THIS CHALLENGE IS (AND WHAT IT’S NOT)

This isn’t a “soft motivation” thing.
This is not “new year new me” vibes.

This is a men’s reset.

It’s for the oke who’s tired of feeling like he’s losing his edge.
Tired of feeling like his discipline is leaking out of his life.
Tired of being strong in one area… but weak in the hidden areas.

This is about becoming a better man for:

• yourself
• your family
• your people
• and most importantly… God

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THE 30-DAY RULES (THE RESET PLAN)

For the next 30 days, I’m cutting two things.

And I’ll report back at Day 8, 16, 24 and 30.
Because accountability is how men grow.
These are my two challenges, Join me with them or choose 1, max 2 of your own.

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My first challenge #1: ALCOHOL… GONE.

Now listen… you’re not gonna believe me but I’ve never been drunk in my life.
Like never.
I hate the feeling of losing control. It freaks me out.

BUT… I do love a glass of red wine at night.
And not a “cute” little glass… I mean a proper pour. 😅
About 300ml.

And the problem is… it became almost every night.
Like 6 days out of 7.

Over time that catches up with you.
Not always on the outside… but inside.

The body never fully gets out of the alcohol cycle.
Sleep gets slightly worse. Recovery gets slightly worse. Cortisol creeps up.
Then anxiety comes knocking like it pays rent.

And boys… I’ve dealt with enough of that to know:
I need to break this completely.

Yes… my abs are still there.
Wine doesn’t destroy my bodyfat.
But as a coach I know: the moment alcohol goes… the body gets sharper.
More crisp. More dry. More focused.

But the biggest thing isn’t even the abs…

It’s my mind.

I can’t accept brain fog anymore.
No man can build a bigger life with a foggy head.
So alcohol is out.

Day 3 now.
I’ll update you again at Day 14.

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My 2nd challenge #2: SEXUAL URGES… CONTROL + DISCIPLINE.

Ok… this one is more personal.

I’m married. I’m blessed. My wife and I are good.
But I’m gonna say something a lot of men won’t say out loud:

Having a high sex drive isn’t always a blessing.
Me and my wife are over 60… but my drive still thinks I’m 25. 💀😂

And if you don’t control it… it controls you.

It steals your focus.
It steals your edge.

And yes… it’s too easy for a man to just “quickly” do something with his right hand.
Then afterwards you sit there like:
“Why do I feel flat? Why do I feel tired? Why do I feel unmotivated?”

Because you drained more than just your body… you drained your drive.

So I’m stopping it.
For 30 days.

Not because sex is bad.
Not because desire is evil.

Because I need more control over the flesh again.
That’s how a man moves forward.

And just to be clear: I don’t do porn.
I’m not thinking about other women.
It’s not that vibe.

It’s pure pleasure sensations/enjoyment (edging, JO, whatever you wanna call it)… and it became too frequent. Too easy. Too unchecked.
And it’s messing with my sharpness.

And I’m not letting that stand between me and Christ.
Or between me and becoming the best version of myself.

So yeah… I’m pulling the plug.

Now… how do you control the “uncontrollable”? Eish ja… 😅
But I’m a focused oke. When I lock in, I go tunnel vision.
And the key is simple: limit triggers before the fire even starts.

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WHY I’M SHARING THIS

Because I know I’m not the only oke fighting these battles quietly.

There are guys reading this who look fine on the outside…
but inside you’re tired.
Anxious.
Distracted.
Low drive.
Always “starting again Monday”.

And you don’t even know why you feel like that.

Bru… I’ve been there.

And I’m done living like that.

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SHADOW ME FOR 30 DAYS

So here’s the challenge:

Come with me for 30 days.

Not to become perfect.
To become better.

More disciplined.
More focused.
Stronger mind.
Stronger body.
Stronger spirit.

Not just for you… but for your family.
Your people.
The ones who need you solid.

If you wanna join me, I’ll be here.
Support, guidance, accountability… the whole thing.

Let’s raise the standard again.
Like men. 👊🔥

Together we become better men.

Last thought

This is a last stand.

Back against the wall. No escape routes. No negotiations.
This has to change — which means there are no options left except victory.

It will not continue.
It will not control me.
Not anymore.

The ache can burn like hell if it wants to.
I will not react.
I will not move.
I will not surrender ground.

Because the fire does not get to rule me — I rule the fire.

And gaining that control is more than discipline over the flesh.
It’s a step toward freedom.
It’s a step toward strength.
It’s a step toward a deeper, stronger walk with Jesus Christ.

This thing has held me back long enough.
And the enemy knows it.

The devil only has power where we hand it over.
As long as we let the fire lead, he wins.
So we don’t let it lead.

Not today.
Not this time.

This is a battle.

And we are not here to negotiate.
We are here to stand.

Thirty days.
Thirty days of holding the line.
Thirty days of discipline, silence, restraint, and resolve.

When the battle is won, we kneel before God and ask Him how to move forward.
But right now?

Right now, we fight.

We do not cave.
We do not retreat.
We do not give ground.

This ends here.

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MEN WHO HAVE JOINED THE CHALLENGE (SO FAR):

• dancescuhassanalexandru
• Mark Stull
• Dan Jensen (email)
• Tim Albertson (email)
• Cyril Clark (email)
• Mark Ryan (email)
• ChefOfWar (youtube)
• Fritz (youtube)
• ldiditucantoo (youtube)
• Joaquin Zarco (email)
• Aàn Nirwana (Insta)
• John Hipps (email)
• Rich Matlock (Facebook)
• Jorge (Email)
• Enrique (Email)
• Nigel Adams (Email)
• Arno Joubert (Email)
• Eric Cruz (email)
• Kevin Blight (Facebook)
• Gert Louw

The guys in the group..let’s chat here in the comments. But if u feel it is a bit sensitive, feel free to email me GertFITNESS@outlook.com. But know each of you will be on my prayer list. May God bless your journey with the challenge.

Want in? Comment “I’M IN” and I’ll add you to the list or simply email me at GertFITNESS@outlook.com. 👊

My third report back - Day 24

No fluff. Just truth.

By day 24 one thing has become very clear to me:

If a man is idle, his mind turns against him.

Simple as that.

When you’re not busy with something real — something that carries weight — your mind goes to places you don’t want it to go. Overthinking. Fantasies. Old habits. Weak shortcuts.

And scrolling social media?
That is poison. Absolute poison.

It feels harmless, but it trains procrastination. It trains avoidance. It teaches your brain to dodge effort instead of leaning into it.

If you want control, you must be busy.
Not “fake busy”.
Real busy.

It honestly doesn’t matter what it is:

• Work
• Gym
• Writing
• Building something
• Fixing something
• Helping someone
• Learning a skill

What matters is that it’s worth your time. That it costs energy. That it matters.

An idle mind doesn’t grow.
It decays.

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For me, staying busy with writing my book, my coaching, and my training is what carried me through Challenge #1 so far.

Day 24.
One relapse.

Planned.

14 February. Valentine’s Day.
My wife and I went out, shared some wine, and yeah — we enjoyed each other properly, like a husband and wife should.

That day stands. No guilt. No drama.

Outside of that?
I held perfectly to the challenge.

And that taught me something important:

👉 I don’t have to obey the urge.

The urge is still there. Stronger than ever, actually.
But I’m in control now — not it.

And that, men, is real power.

Not pretending urges don’t exist.
Not beating yourself up when you fail.

Control.

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In the past, being a slave to these urges messed with me badly. Every failure made me feel sick — not because I did something “wrong”, but because I wasn’t in charge of myself.

And listen carefully:

If you’re not in control of yourself, you’re not climbing higher as a man.
You’re standing still. Or sliding back.

This challenge was my line in the sand.
This is where control starts.

Alcohol? Honestly a non-issue.
Mental clarity? Much sharper. Less fog. More focus.

Without that clarity I wouldn’t be able to write my new book — and hard sci-fi doesn’t tolerate a scattered brain.

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So here’s the bottom line at Day 24:

This can be done.
You can win.
You can come out on top.

At Day 30 I’ll do a full review — how I see alcohol and sexual discipline going forward, and we’ll also look at what the Word of God actually says about mastery, not shame.

Challenge #2 is coming. I have designed the Challenges in a specific way for us men to gain control step by step.
And it’s an important one.

This isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about becoming strong, disciplined, grounded men.

Less noise.
More purpose.
No idling.

Hou vas.
Ons bou manne.

My second report back - Day 16

Alright brothers. Day 16.

Two rules: no alcohol, no JO.
I’m still standing.

But let me be honest—it wasn’t clean.

Day 9 onward I felt stronger. Better grip. Better control. That’s usually where the danger starts. You think, “I’ve got this now.” You relax. You let a trigger slide past because you believe you’re in charge.

You’re not.

I had a very close call around Day 12. And it wasn’t because I suddenly became weak. It was because I let a trigger stay in my visual space. I didn’t shut it down immediately. I told myself, “Nah, I’m fine.”

That’s the lie.

Triggers cannot pass. Ever.
Not once. Not “just this time.”

Alcohol? Easy. That one hasn’t even tested me.
The JO rule is the real fight. And I’m winning—but not because of willpower.

Here’s the part that matters:

The goal is not just “don’t JO.”

That realization hit me hard.

If you keep everything the same—same scrolling, same inputs, same habits—and just expect yourself to hold the lid on, you are setting yourself up to fail. You’re trying to control something you’ve never been able to control before… using the same environment that trained the impulse in the first place.

That doesn’t work.

What changed for me wasn’t discipline alone.
It was immersion.

Two weeks ago I started writing fiction. Proper science fiction. World-building. Characters. Logic. Rules. Story arcs. Artwork. The whole thing. And suddenly, every spare minute I had was filled with something demanding and creative.

No mind wandering.
No scrolling.
No random triggers slipping in sideways.

And that’s the key, brothers.

Scrolling is poison for this challenge. It’s unpredictable. It will guarantee trigger points. And when you’re tired, stressed, or complacent, those triggers turn into action fast.

So don’t just try to “control yourself.”

Change the environment.

If scrolling is your default—cut it.
Replace it with something predictive and non-triggering:

• Read a book
• Paint
• Build something
• Learn something
• Write (you might surprise yourself)

Find your groove. Not mine—yours.

For me, I’m locked into this story for another 40–60 days. I’m already around 30,000 words. The main story is done. Now it’s character depth and world expansion.

That’s not the point though.

The point is this:

You don’t win this challenge by suppression.
You win it by redirection.

Stay sharp.
Kill triggers early.
Change the terrain.

We’re not here to survive 30 days.
We’re here to become men who don’t need the habit anymore.

Keep going.

My first report back - Day 8

Ok boys… quick update. I’m on day 8 of the 30-day reset and I’m holding steady. Nothing dramatic. As you know, my challenge has 2 things. The one, alcohol, easy, no issues. The other, MUCH more difficult. But I am hanging in there and getting better. No detail talk here because it is no good for me or any of u doing this same challenge! So, just doing the work and staying honest with myself.

Most of you are starting tomorrow for February, so listen for a second.

The point of this challenge isn’t to look better. It’s to become a better man.

The two things I chose might look small to you. For me, they’re not. They’re things I allowed to creep in and take up too much space. Things I want back in the backseat.

You’ll have your own things to deal with. Just don’t overdo it. One thing is enough. Two max. Don’t try to fix your whole life in 30 days — that’s how you lose. Men don’t change by making the battle massive. We change by making it real and winnable. Sometimes that means discipline. Sometimes prayer. Sometimes fasting. Sometimes just saying “not today”. One step at a time. One rung at a time. That’s how we climb.

So far 8 guys have joined. That matters.

Not for numbers — but because men are choosing to step up instead of numbing out.

This isn’t only a February thing either. You can start any 30-day period when you feel that nudge that says: enough. If you want in, add your name in the comments and I’ll keep you in prayer. If it feels personal, you can also email me: GertFITNESS@outlook.com We’re not chasing perfection here. We’re chasing alignment — body, mind, and spirit.

Quietly. Properly. Like men. — Gert

Gert Louw